Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Last Post from China--Zai Jian!







Here are some scenes from our last few days...birthday cake. the White Swan play room. the amazing breakfast spread (I was a total tourist this morning and took photos of the food).


































I cannot believe I am writing this final post from Guangzhou. Forgive me for not posting at all yesterday--we didn't do much of note, and the only times I had a chance to write were during naps or night time sleep, and I didn't want to disturb our little mei mei.

We have enjoyed seeing more and more of Lilly's personality these last few days, and have mostly spent our time (aside from visa paperwork) shopping, playing in the hotel's awesome play room with lots of other adoptive families, and hanging out in the room (which has become Lilly's favorite hangout, where we see more of her playful side emerging).

Today was Lilly's 3rd birthday, and we celebrated by taking our adoption oath at the US Consulate. As we said the oath, surrounded by many other American adoptive families, I found myself tearing up. It wasn't that we said anything special in the oath (we basically said that all of our paperwork was true and accurate), but the fact that this was our last bit of formal paperwork and ceremony to complete this amazing process, and the fact that we were doing it together with the other wonderful families in our group, made it a touching thing for me. Lilly will travel home on a Chinese passport, but the minute we land in Atlanta, she will become a US citizen.

Tonight, after eating fabulous Italian food with some of our good friends (I know, Italian food in China??), we celebrated Lilly's birthday in our room with a lovely cake that Kathy, our CCAI guide, had sent to our room from the hotel management. We gave Lilly a few little presents (a cloisonne bracelet to match anna's, some little utensils and chopsticks, and some Chinese-English picture books). It was fun to watch Lilly enjoy her cake, and then feed it to daddy and mommy!

So as we pack up tonight we leave the hotel at 5:50am), I have mixed emotions. We are thrilled to be going home, retrieving our beloved pets from good friends (hopefully Laura's back yard is intact and Tad hasn't dug up too mny spots!), and settling into whatever our new "normal" will look like. Can't wait to sleep in a soft bed again, too. And we especially can't wait to introdouce Lilly to family and friends. But I am sad to say goodbye to the friends we have made, sad to say goodbye to China (hope to make it back again before too much time passes!), and somewhat sad to see Lilly leaving the country of her birth.

It has been so exciting to remember my Mandarin, and I am excited to maybe put it to use in some way in the future. For now, I will continue to use it each day to communicate with Lilly as she begins to learn English.

So pray for us as we endure the long flight home, and as we begin to settle in at home and get through jet lag.

Zai jian to Zhongguo, zai jian to our awesome CCAI friends!


4 comments:

The Callender Family said...

Happy Birthday Lilly! Have a safe trip back home and we will see you soon!

Rebecca said...

I can't wait to see you tomorrow night!! Have a safe and sane trip home. Call if you need anything. I'll have my cell with me all day.

Donna said...

Happy Birthday, Lilly!!
Seeing the photos of that breakfast spread makes me SOOOO wish I was at the WS right now! And, yes, I remember tearing up at the oath and all that it meant to leave China with Lainey. You have had a wonderful trip, and will have amazing memories...and, your new normal begins soon! Hoping your flight home goes smoothly!

Unknown said...

I cried at the oath as well. I think all of emotions just built up as I watch my miracle in my arms. Your family made my trip so much better!

Why Adoption? Why China?

I'm sure that many of you, when you learned that Tom and I were pursuing adoption of a little girl from China, wondered "why?!" We may have taken some of you by surprise, and we thought it might be nice to share some of our thinking about this journey we are undertaking.

Adoption is something that, even from the earliest years of our marriage, we talked about as "maybe someday." The idea of adoption is appealing to us for many reasons. As Christians, we are adopted by God as his children through faith in Jesus. Adoption allows us to provide a child with the needed love, warmth, and financial resources we have been blessed with as a family. Finally, adoption allows us to add to our family at a time when our biological children are old enough to be more self-sufficient, and we are in a position financially to be able to welcome a child into our family in this way. What we hope to gain is an additional family member to love and learn from, and an opportunity to share the joy and love of our family.

We recognize that an adoption will bring unique parenting challenges to our family--especially since we are considering a child with special needs--and it is likely to put unique stresses on our family in a variety of ways. We are grateful for Tom's medical knowledge and for the great medical coverage we get through Tom's Air Force career, and we look forward to providing a forever family for a child whose medical needs might make it more difficult for another family to take on.

Finally, why China? My love for China, the Chinese language, and the Chinese people made China the natural choice. It was never really even a consideration whether to go with a domestic adoption or international; China was simply the natural choice that we immediately pursued, especially since there are so many children in China that need a forever family.

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Our Adoption Timeline

  • Travel Dates--11-26 March
  • Swearing In Ceremony at Consulate--25 March (Lilly's 3rd Birthday!)
  • Consulate Appointment (CA)--24 March
  • Travel Approval (TA)--19 February 2009
  • Received Letter of Approval (LOA)--22 January 2009
  • Received Pre-Approval (PA)--25 November
  • Submitted Letter of Intent (LOI) to adopt An Xiao Xue, soon to be named Lillian Joy Xiao Xue, 1 November (logged in at CCAA 21 November)
  • Referral Call from CCAI asking us to consider An Xiao Xue's profile--31 October
  • Dossier Log-in-Date (LID) 3 July 2008
  • Dossier to China (DTC)--June 27 2008
  • Dossier Submitted to CCAI--June 2008
  • Fingerprinted at USCIS Jacksonville--April 2008
  • Application Approval ("We're Pregnant!") January 2008
  • Submitted Adoption Application and 3 References--December 2007
  • Requested Application from Chinese Children Adoption International (CCAI) --November 2007
  • Decided to Investigate Agencies--October 2007