Friday, March 20, 2009

Last Day in Henan Province: A few steps forward, a step or two back

Our bags are packed for our flight tomorrow to Guangzhou, the final leg of our adoption trip. We received Lillys Chinese passport today, and now need to get her visa allowing her to enter the US. We are all eager for a change of scenery and are excited we are inside a week from actually being home!






Today we did a group trip to the local zoo, then spent the afternoon at the hotel playing. roaming the hallways, Anna and Daddy swimming, and eating dinner at our bfavorite local restaurant at the Holiday Inn Express next door. I also ventured out with a few others to retrieve the photos developed from the disposable cameras I had sent in care packages to Lilly's orphanage. There are some wonderful photos on it withLilly and friends at her orphanage as well as with her foster mama. when llly saw the photo of herself, she said "Mei Mei" (little sister), and when she saw her foster mother, she said "Mama." Itbroke my heart. I know Lilly misses her because after that she seemed sad. And I'm sure that sweet CHinese mama is missing this little meimei too.





It seems as if progress with Lilly is not continual, but involves a step or two backward after a few steps forward. Lilly had a fabulous night last night--she went to sleep quietly with a few toys in her bed, and did not have any diarrhea through the night. This morning, however, it seemed as if we had gone a few steps backwards in terms of Lilly being emotionally shut down and --as we call it--not wanting anyone to get near her "bubble." She was happy to let Tom carry her around at the zoo, but once he handed her off to me, forget it. She was screaming and writhing andI'm sure the locals thought I had either abducted her or was beating her.










This afternoon, even though she did not fall asleep for a nap (played quiety in her crib), she finally smiled for mama as she and I roamed the hallways and I made a game of carrying her up the stairs. So good to see her smile and feel as if maybe she liked being with me a little. I SO cannot wait to gt her home and feel like we can regain some sense of normalcy in our lives again!

*********THE RED BOOTS********






I have been meaning to share a sweet story about a comment I got on my blog posting the day after we got Lilly, when I posted photos with her little red boots. Someone whom I have not met posted a comment to let me know she was thrilled to see the red boots on Lilly. She adopted from Anyang--the same orphanage as Lilly--6 months go, and had sent a care package just 6 weeks ago to the orphanage for the babies. Lilly's little red boots were one of the items in the care package How cool is that? She has since deleted the comment (not sure why?) but I wanted to share this sweet story. If the original poster is still reading, thanks so much for sharing!



Here are a few photos-the real reason you all are here, right?

6 comments:

Olimb Photography said...

I have to admit - I smile every time you mention the red boots. I myself have always been a Wizard of Oz fan...and by fan I mean obsessive to the point of seeming immature :0) But I love it. It's my happy movie and yes, I own a pair of ruby red slippers and yes, I have bought a pair that I keep in my hope chest for the day when I have a daughter that can wear them while I read them the Oz books. Every time I see a picture of Lily with those boots I smile and think "They're going to have something special as a mom and daughter." Not because of the red boots, but the red boots are what remind me of that special bond I want with my daughter when I have a family.

On a lighter note - Pandas are my favorite animal and seeing that photo this morning made my day! I have a gigantic stuffed panda from when my dad went to Korea when I was little. I was about three and he came home form his year long trek with that monster of a stuffed animal in hand. It's head is the size of maybe five watermelons. :0)

Praying for your safe return and that your bond will Lily will be strong.

Molly said...

Amy-
It's so great to see the pictures and videos of Lilly. We can't wait to meet her. We pray for a safe trip home with lots of family bonding!
:)
Molly

Nili said...

Thanks Amy for keeping us updated and for the pictures too! Lilly is such a beautiful girl...I can't wait to watch her bloom and grow!

The Callender Family said...

Hope Lilly's first flight went smoothly and looking forward to more news.
PS: We are keeping an eye on your house now that the Mignaccas left for CO.

Traci Brunner said...

Hi Amy, I just loved seeing the pictures of Jared and Lilly & Anna & Lilly, they are just adorable. I also love hearing the stories you are telling. You are such a special person to let us all be involved in your journey! Thanks again and have a safe trip!

Jenna's momma said...

Hi I was the one who wrote the note about donating the red boots. I don't know what happened to my orignal post I hadn't been back out there to delete it. My daughter (Xiaomneg) Jenna was very happy to see the boots she picked out for her China friends on your little girl. It's really neat to think for a little while both our daughters lived together. Have a blessed trip. Kristie Olges

Why Adoption? Why China?

I'm sure that many of you, when you learned that Tom and I were pursuing adoption of a little girl from China, wondered "why?!" We may have taken some of you by surprise, and we thought it might be nice to share some of our thinking about this journey we are undertaking.

Adoption is something that, even from the earliest years of our marriage, we talked about as "maybe someday." The idea of adoption is appealing to us for many reasons. As Christians, we are adopted by God as his children through faith in Jesus. Adoption allows us to provide a child with the needed love, warmth, and financial resources we have been blessed with as a family. Finally, adoption allows us to add to our family at a time when our biological children are old enough to be more self-sufficient, and we are in a position financially to be able to welcome a child into our family in this way. What we hope to gain is an additional family member to love and learn from, and an opportunity to share the joy and love of our family.

We recognize that an adoption will bring unique parenting challenges to our family--especially since we are considering a child with special needs--and it is likely to put unique stresses on our family in a variety of ways. We are grateful for Tom's medical knowledge and for the great medical coverage we get through Tom's Air Force career, and we look forward to providing a forever family for a child whose medical needs might make it more difficult for another family to take on.

Finally, why China? My love for China, the Chinese language, and the Chinese people made China the natural choice. It was never really even a consideration whether to go with a domestic adoption or international; China was simply the natural choice that we immediately pursued, especially since there are so many children in China that need a forever family.

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Our Adoption Timeline

  • Travel Dates--11-26 March
  • Swearing In Ceremony at Consulate--25 March (Lilly's 3rd Birthday!)
  • Consulate Appointment (CA)--24 March
  • Travel Approval (TA)--19 February 2009
  • Received Letter of Approval (LOA)--22 January 2009
  • Received Pre-Approval (PA)--25 November
  • Submitted Letter of Intent (LOI) to adopt An Xiao Xue, soon to be named Lillian Joy Xiao Xue, 1 November (logged in at CCAA 21 November)
  • Referral Call from CCAI asking us to consider An Xiao Xue's profile--31 October
  • Dossier Log-in-Date (LID) 3 July 2008
  • Dossier to China (DTC)--June 27 2008
  • Dossier Submitted to CCAI--June 2008
  • Fingerprinted at USCIS Jacksonville--April 2008
  • Application Approval ("We're Pregnant!") January 2008
  • Submitted Adoption Application and 3 References--December 2007
  • Requested Application from Chinese Children Adoption International (CCAI) --November 2007
  • Decided to Investigate Agencies--October 2007