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We had a fun morning at a local park with my friend Kristine's family, riding paddle boats, blowing bubbles, watching Chinese women dote on and take photos of Anna (she gets lots of attention here, probably a good thing given all that is happening in her little world.)
As I began writing this post this afternoon, Tom, Jared, Anna and Lilly were behind me playing silly games with Lilly on the floor behind me. They were all leaning at the foot of one our beds (seems to be Lilly's comfort zone) in our room. She would offer her cracker, then, as daddy leaned in for a bite, she pulled`it away and smiles as daddy laughs. So good to see this solemn girl smile. Jared got some video footage so we'll post it later. No nap for this girl today, and my time of trying to encourage one has ended.
The big kids and Tom went to the pool this afternoon. I took Lilly down in her new bathing suit for a little while (don't think she liked having bare legs) but she and I didn't stay long. She had no interest in getting in (and I didn't want to try to wrestle her to get her cute red boots off). Plus, a Chinese man came over to see Lilly, and asked me why I would want to adopt her since I could have gotten a healthy child. His tone and is implication that Lilly wasn't worthy of a family like mine bothered me, so we went back upstairs.
Lilly loves to walk around in the hallways here in the hotel, but she really dislikes being in the room. Bedtime was a struggle tonight, as all she wanted to do was get down from bed and go walk the hallways. She is, once again, finally asleep.
I find myself constantly scond guessing my parenting with her, but am trying hard to follow my mommy instincts as to what she needs and when to stand firm in the face of her strong will and strong voice. Definitely a challenge. I know that many of the other moms in our group also struggle with feelings of not just physical and emotional fatigue right now, but also struggling to know how best to deal with the quirky and sometimes downright unacceptable behaviors we see in these precious toddlers.
We all just keep reminding ourselves that this is only day 3, and we've already come a long way. May tomorrow continue to show progress inour family's new bonds of love with Lilly, and may we each have a day of good health to enjoy this time in Lilly's native land. 
7 comments:
I am so glad to hear things are going well. Baby steps are better than no steps!!:) (except in the hotel halls at bed time) LOL I'm sure you are all looking forward to just getting home and beginning your new lives together! Take care and stay healthy :)
I am praying for you and the rest of the family, especially the new addition. I am confident that God will give you the patience you need to help Lilly adjust to new surroundings of people, place, and lifestyle. I love you guys, be safe!
Amy don't be so hard on yourself,
God, teach me to be patient, teach me to go slow, Teach me how to wait on You when my way I do not know.
in hurrying the bloom along, I destroy the bud and much of the beauty there in. (Even in the midst of a temper tantrum!)
Amy- you,Tom,Jarred and Anna have done more in this last week then most people do in a life time!!
Love,Cindy
Great to hear that all is getting better and you get to know each other more every day! I love the picture of Lilly and Tom, it is adorable! Hopefully she went down to bed easier tonight...
I just caught up on everything, and am glad to see your baby steps...yes, it's only day 3 and you have far to go. Like you know, take it one step (behavior, incident) at a time and pretty soon you'll see her blossom. Praying for you all.
Donna
You are doing an amazing job! My favorite verse lately is God equips those He calls for His service!! Remember that!! I check this site about 5 times a day wondering how things are for you all. I can hardly wait to meet that sweet little peanut!!
Coming from a mom who also adopted a 3 year old, you are exactly right when you say it is ONLY day three.....it will get better! I promise!! :)
Sadly enough we also got a comment like the one you got at the pool....sometimes I smile and think if he could only see her now!!!!
Sandra D. Allie and Piper's mommy
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