Still Waiting...
...our fingerprints were taken on 24 April, 16 days ago, and we are still awaiting our I-171H from the USCIS. I had been hopeful we could have had it as early as a week ago today because our friends had theirs within 9 days of fingerprinting, but not us! It has been a daily letdown, going to the mailbox extectantly each day, and finding mainly junk mail (credit card applications, catalogs, sales flyers...you know the stuff). I am poised and ready to spring into action once that document is in my hands, and am prepared to make the 5-hour round-trip trek to Tallahassee to have our dossier documents Florida Secretary of State certified once we have them all and have them notarized. But, until I have that last document in my hand, I simply have to wait. Of course, waiting doesn't involve inaction, since there is a never-ending list of things to be done in the course of normal daily living. But mentally, waiting involves an emotional and mental struggle to remain patient and faith-filled as I go about that endless list. We're not alone in the wait. I am beginning to read some of the online forums for adoptive parents in the process, and am finding I need to not read so much of them as they only make me less patient. Of course, our daughter is also doing some waiting of her own, waiting for her forever family. May the wait go quickly for us all!
Why Adoption? Why China?
I'm sure that many of you, when you learned that Tom and I were pursuing adoption of a little girl from China, wondered "why?!" We may have taken some of you by surprise, and we thought it might be nice to share some of our thinking about this journey we are undertaking.
Adoption is something that, even from the earliest years of our marriage, we talked about as "maybe someday." The idea of adoption is appealing to us for many reasons. As Christians, we are adopted by God as his children through faith in Jesus. Adoption allows us to provide a child with the needed love, warmth, and financial resources we have been blessed with as a family. Finally, adoption allows us to add to our family at a time when our biological children are old enough to be more self-sufficient, and we are in a position financially to be able to welcome a child into our family in this way. What we hope to gain is an additional family member to love and learn from, and an opportunity to share the joy and love of our family.
We recognize that an adoption will bring unique parenting challenges to our family--especially since we are considering a child with special needs--and it is likely to put unique stresses on our family in a variety of ways. We are grateful for Tom's medical knowledge and for the great medical coverage we get through Tom's Air Force career, and we look forward to providing a forever family for a child whose medical needs might make it more difficult for another family to take on.
Finally, why China? My love for China, the Chinese language, and the Chinese people made China the natural choice. It was never really even a consideration whether to go with a domestic adoption or international; China was simply the natural choice that we immediately pursued, especially since there are so many children in China that need a forever family.
Our Adoption Timeline
- Travel Dates--11-26 March
- Swearing In Ceremony at Consulate--25 March (Lilly's 3rd Birthday!)
- Consulate Appointment (CA)--24 March
- Travel Approval (TA)--19 February 2009
- Received Letter of Approval (LOA)--22 January 2009
- Received Pre-Approval (PA)--25 November
- Submitted Letter of Intent (LOI) to adopt An Xiao Xue, soon to be named Lillian Joy Xiao Xue, 1 November (logged in at CCAA 21 November)
- Referral Call from CCAI asking us to consider An Xiao Xue's profile--31 October
- Dossier Log-in-Date (LID) 3 July 2008
- Dossier to China (DTC)--June 27 2008
- Dossier Submitted to CCAI--June 2008
- Fingerprinted at USCIS Jacksonville--April 2008
- Application Approval ("We're Pregnant!") January 2008
- Submitted Adoption Application and 3 References--December 2007
- Requested Application from Chinese Children Adoption International (CCAI) --November 2007
- Decided to Investigate Agencies--October 2007
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