Monday, April 13, 2009

First Easter

Here is Lilly, walking into church on Easter Sunday. Baby comes along almost everywhere!

Contemplating her first chocolate bunny...
Yes, she is definitely in the right family...she likes chocolate!




Anna with her favorite dyed egg on Easter morning. The big kids dyed the eggs; Lilly ate most of them!


Pretty girl, ready for church



First egg is found! She had just awoken from her nap so the banana is the post-nap snack...



Another one in Lilly's color!




Sisters looking cute together...


Assessing the eggs' contents. She decided she doesn't like skittles, but she had to taste (and then spit into mama's hand) each color to be sure.





Lilly is getting braver about the pool...I think we'll be spending some time in it together this summer!


Every day seems to get a little bit better with Lilly these days! She is learning more English words, more sign language, and is even putting more Chinese words together to communicate. We are finding fun things to do at home and out and about, and have even had a playdate or two with other kiddos (and their mommies, which makes me happy!) Lilly had about a week or so of awakening with night terrors early in her sleep cycles at night, which were usually occuring just as Tom and I had finally started to drift off to sleep. She has had a few nights in a row without any, and I am hopeful we may be winding down on those. She is mostly sleeping through the night and taking good naps during the day. I have returned to my "nap nazi" ways which I guess is just a part of who I am, but I have to say that a well-rested baby is simply a happier baby (which makes for a happier mama!)

The big kids have settled back in at school, and are doing great. They came home from their long trip and, instead of finding themselves far far behind in their work, they are actually ahead of their classes in most subjects! Anna is back at the pool for swim team (albeit without mom as coach) and Jared is back at the track after school. Jared is really relishing his role as big brother and Lilly enjoys playing with him a lot. He has taught her to "high five" and do "thumbs up." Tonight as we walked Tad, she held up her hands for a high five when someone happened to say the number "five" in the course of conversation. Pretty cute.

Anna is most definitely being stretched by this whole experience, as she has lost her status not just as the only girl but also as the youngest. She loves Lilly and loves to show her new sister to everyone, but she struggles to always know how to appropriately interact with her (toddlers can be quirky and Lilly doesn't always appreciate Anna's tight squeezes or her efforts to play) and Anna is definitely on an emotional edge much of the time lately. I am trying my hardest to be sensitive to her, to draw her feelings out in conversation (she is beginning to open up), and build her up verbally as best as I can. Most of all I am praying for her that God would help her to take joy in her new and important role as older sister.


Here are some photos from our lovely Easter celebration, including a neighborhood egg hunt on Saturday and church on Sunday. I failed to take any photos of our Bible study/LIFE group at our place on Sunday afternoon, unfortunately. But it was great to have everyone here and enjoy a potluck Easter dinner together after finishing our study of Malachi.

6 comments:

Kris said...

LOVE the three girls and TAD by the pool! Cute pictue!!

Jaime said...

Such a beauty! What a wonderful first Easter of so many to come. :)

Traci Brunner said...

Love the pictures; Lilly in her Easter dress(just beautiful), Anna & Lilly (adorable) and you three by the pool with Tad's tongue makes me smile!! I'm so very glad Lilly is sleeping better, I'm sure that makes everyone's life a little easier. :0)

Unknown said...

all of these are just wonderful!!

Thatcher Family said...

Wow! Lilly is doing amazing and so are you! I totally understand about Anna's reaction to her new little sister. Our oldest daughter was 5 when we brought Ava home from China at 21 months old. I think this was the most difficult part of the adoption as a mother. I mourned Emma no longer being the only child and center of attention. She has handled having this active toddler taking over as best that she could have. It has been one year since coming home with Ava and the girls have a normal "love--hate" relationship like all other siblings! We have tried to make sure Emma gets to do something special just for her at least once a month. I wish it was more, but life is so busy! Hang in there, you are doing an amazing job!

jennyg63 said...

Just had a sec to look at your blog. Love the pics...esp the one with all of the girls and Tad.

Why Adoption? Why China?

I'm sure that many of you, when you learned that Tom and I were pursuing adoption of a little girl from China, wondered "why?!" We may have taken some of you by surprise, and we thought it might be nice to share some of our thinking about this journey we are undertaking.

Adoption is something that, even from the earliest years of our marriage, we talked about as "maybe someday." The idea of adoption is appealing to us for many reasons. As Christians, we are adopted by God as his children through faith in Jesus. Adoption allows us to provide a child with the needed love, warmth, and financial resources we have been blessed with as a family. Finally, adoption allows us to add to our family at a time when our biological children are old enough to be more self-sufficient, and we are in a position financially to be able to welcome a child into our family in this way. What we hope to gain is an additional family member to love and learn from, and an opportunity to share the joy and love of our family.

We recognize that an adoption will bring unique parenting challenges to our family--especially since we are considering a child with special needs--and it is likely to put unique stresses on our family in a variety of ways. We are grateful for Tom's medical knowledge and for the great medical coverage we get through Tom's Air Force career, and we look forward to providing a forever family for a child whose medical needs might make it more difficult for another family to take on.

Finally, why China? My love for China, the Chinese language, and the Chinese people made China the natural choice. It was never really even a consideration whether to go with a domestic adoption or international; China was simply the natural choice that we immediately pursued, especially since there are so many children in China that need a forever family.

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Our Adoption Timeline

  • Travel Dates--11-26 March
  • Swearing In Ceremony at Consulate--25 March (Lilly's 3rd Birthday!)
  • Consulate Appointment (CA)--24 March
  • Travel Approval (TA)--19 February 2009
  • Received Letter of Approval (LOA)--22 January 2009
  • Received Pre-Approval (PA)--25 November
  • Submitted Letter of Intent (LOI) to adopt An Xiao Xue, soon to be named Lillian Joy Xiao Xue, 1 November (logged in at CCAA 21 November)
  • Referral Call from CCAI asking us to consider An Xiao Xue's profile--31 October
  • Dossier Log-in-Date (LID) 3 July 2008
  • Dossier to China (DTC)--June 27 2008
  • Dossier Submitted to CCAI--June 2008
  • Fingerprinted at USCIS Jacksonville--April 2008
  • Application Approval ("We're Pregnant!") January 2008
  • Submitted Adoption Application and 3 References--December 2007
  • Requested Application from Chinese Children Adoption International (CCAI) --November 2007
  • Decided to Investigate Agencies--October 2007